UNDER WHAT CIRCUMSTANCES WILL YOU LET YOUR WIFE SLEEP WITH SOMEONE ELSE?

In your law firm you must have minimum, nonnegotiable standards- some things you will not do and things you will say no to. When the bills are piling up, when the world is laughing at you, when you lose money, you still say no.

This is difficult and this is easy in certain senses. Difficult because everybody is cashing in on the easy money and you will look like a fool and if you eventually fail they may be right, difficult because to justify your stance you must work really hard to provide a viable alternative or the consequences will be dire (and we all know how much we 'love' to do this kind of work).

It's easy in the sense that you don't have many choices to confuse you and that you have a lot of focus. Just stick to your plan: no speeches or second guesses or doubting. The Christian bible has some advice to offer along the lines of 'Wide is the way that leads to death and Narrow is the way that leads to life'.

Now get this: you can follow the wide way, cash in with the boys and you will get appointments, promotions, contracts and good assignments but you will be a scoundrel. So do not expect your narrow way view to be always validated by the business community and the legal services space. If this happens more power to your elbow and if not, you are still where you were previously :on the narrow road.

Saying no and walking away are strong sources of growth for your law firm because you have a reputation, you are forced to depend on your ingenuity to thrive and human nature is really funny: when people see you on have picked a position and you have reconciled yourself to your position, they give you what you want.